After analysing several complex relationship cases, I’ve become increasingly convinced that different divinatory systems do not cancel each other out but complement one another. Each speaks from a different layer of reality. In this case, I used two separate decks, the Archetype Deck and Tarot Deck and they revealed what seemed like contradictory readings. But as the situation unfolded, it became evident that both were describing reality from different angles: one symbolic, the other situational.
After the initial Archetype Deck reading, the querent expressed dissatisfaction with the result, highlighting what initially appeared to be a contradiction, though it was not.
The Archetype Deck revealed deep mythic energy. It showed an unconscious projection playing out, with one person projecting a soul-image or anima onto the other. The Tarot Deck showed a clear practical dynamic between the two people involved. It was not an either/or situation. A bond could be real AND archetypal. If anything, a real bond can amplify the projection.
In Jungian and Hermetic terms, a projection is not fantasy. It’s the encounter with one’s own inner content, clothed in flesh.
A projection is “an automatic process whereby contents of the unconscious are perceived to be in others” so every outer entanglement reflects an unresolved inner mystery.
Archetypal Deck
A person appears to embody something archetypal to the other. They become a karmic figure or mythic soul trigger. The reading with the Archetype Deck illustrated this projection using specific imagery, while the Tarot reading reflected an emotional exchange like curiosity, attraction, flirtation, conflict. These concepts are not mutually exclusive. A projection doesn’t vanish because the other person does or doesn’t reciprocate. It deepens and adds voltage to the circuit.
People often misunderstand projection as something “not real.” But psychologically and magically, a projection becomes more real when it finds a vessel. A person doesn’t ask to be the container of someone else’s myth. But they still fit and activate it. The result is a highly charged dynamic. And this is where lessons unfold.
The Real Connection Is the Lesson
Even if the person is unaware of it, they trigger mutual inner transformation. They are not merely a symbol; they carry the symbol and catalyse something beyond their intention.
If the interaction was a fantasy, the projection would dissolve as soon as their imperfections became visible. But sometimes this does not happen. Instead, their realness inflames the projection and the symbolic becomes an experience.
Myth and reality entangle and that becomes a crucible for transformation.
Two Readings, Two Realities
The Archetype Deck captured the unconscious layer mythic script, projection, soul-lesson. The Tarot captured the practical layer, emotional dynamics, behavioural patterns and complexity, timing, and possibility.
One shows the why. The other shows the how.
What “Lesson Learned” Means
For the lesson to be absorbed, the projection must be withdrawn and the trigger integrated. This enables any compulsive charge to be broken. This is magical and psychological work.
One person must recognise the other not as a mystery to solve, a victim to rescue, or a dream to possess, but as a mirror reflecting their longing, loss, desire, and wound. They are not “the one” but the one who shows the other why they want there to be a “one.”
If they can say, “I projected something onto the other that they never asked to carry,” then the myth is seen for what it is. That’s the moment of release.
Sometimes the other person feeds the myth (for a variety of different reasons) and to break this loop they must stop playing energetic bait, absorbing projections and unconsciously offering themselves as the muse or escape for someone else. If they can say, “I don’t have to be someone’s myth,” they step out of the loop.
Until then, they are not in a relationship but servicing someone else’s image.
There Must Be a Collapse or Conscious Ending
For the spell to break, something must give. That may come as an attempted relationship that implodes. Or a clear ending. Or a mutual moment of realisation where both admit they were caught in a larger pattern. If the interaction fades away without that moment of clarity, the loop will repeat, the bond replays. There will be silence, projection, frustration, fantasy but with a different person embodying the same myth and dynamic.
Can the Relationship Happen?
Yes, but not in the form it began.
if the projection is integrated, a relationship that begins in myth can transform into something real, grounded, and bright. But only if both people retrieve their projections and meet each other as their real human selves. Until then, it’s just a drama soap opera, not a partnership.
So, if both wake up inside the myth, they can build something real and deeper because of the karmic heat, not despite it.
This requires inner work. Both must stop acting out archetypes and feeding the sacred drama.
When I mention “karmic” here, I don’t mean the usual New Age nonsense about being doomed to suffer.
A karmic relationship is when your higher self recognises an experience it must have in order to evolve.
The classic karmic setup manifests in two people triggering what the other needs to confront in themselves.
Most karmic bonds don’t evolve into healthy, functional relationships. This is because despite the connection being real, the process is hard. It demands deep inner work: confronting wounds, shadows, power games, and a willingness to see the other person stripped of their respective fantasies.
The outcome, whether painful or transformative, depends on whether you advance through the mirror or cling to the illusion.
This kind of connection forces the ego to surrender to something bigger. It requires both people to awaken, not just one.
If one resists, the bond becomes a loop, a drain, or a re-traumatisation.
But if both do the work and can say, “I see you as you are, not who I wanted you to be,” then the trigger becomes the transformative element and the compulsive charge is alchemised into awareness.
That’s what Jung meant by:
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.”
The Synastry and the Soul Circuit
Astrological synastry confirms these complex energetic threads, which are often considered too challenging to resolve. Their natal charts reveal pronounced anima and animus dynamics. In synastry, specific planetary contacts activate these complexes as if the other person’s chart is wired to trigger unconscious projections and inner archetypes. However, charts only reveal potential. It is the consciousness of the individuals that determines whether it becomes a pattern or a breakthrough.
As Liz Greene explains, synastry often reveals the presence of unconscious complexes and projections in action. Relationships are not always designed for ease or lasting union, but rather to catalyse inner conflict and growth, awakening us through tension, rupture, or confrontation.
She writes:
Individuals blind to the sexual opposite within them, be they men or women, never realise that the partner they choose is chosen because he or she bears some resemblance to the anima or animus. The anger and hurt felt at the ‘true discovery’ of the partner’s failings is really anger and hurt directed at oneself… When a disastrous relationship occurs once, we may fool ourselves into believing it is chance; when it occurs twice, it has become a pattern, and a pattern is an unmistakable indication that the anima or animus is at work in the unconscious, propelling the helpless ego into relationships or situations which are baffling, painful, and frighteningly repetitive.
This demonstrates how relationships act as mirrors, repeatedly triggering our unconscious material until it is made conscious. In another of her texts, Greene compares this process to projecting an image onto a screen; we respond emotionally to the image, unaware that its source lies within ourselves.
Lilith
Projection is driven through synastry.
We could say for example:
His Black Moon Lilith opposes her Sun, where he becomes magnetically drawn to what she embodies but is threatened by it. She represents the radiant self he cannot fully accept or integrate, making her irresistible and unsettling. The intense energy generated by this opposition leads to power struggles, control issues, and clashes of ego and hidden desires.
Another one could be his Saturn conjuncts her Sun. Saturn is rigid and controlling of her core identity, while simultaneously being pulled toward her authority, presence, and light. She feels suppressed, even as he depends on her as a stabilising radian life force.
These alignments are not neutral. They carry charge like electricity through copper, forming the wiring for mythic struggle, erotic tension, and deep psychological and soul-level trials. Strip away those planetary contacts and you’d have another face in the crowd. With them, people morph into symbols, are mythologised and impossible to ignore.
You could have mind-blowing synastry and still crash and burn, if the two people don’t integrate what’s activated. A difficult synastry can lead to profound growth or years of trauma.
Synastry is not written in stone, but an intensity roadmap and your free will decides what to do with it.
Understanding the Self: A Toolbox of Magic, Astrology, Psychology, and Divination
Magic can reveal, support, and cleanse the dynamic. But the real transformation comes when you see the projection and the person, Love the person without needing them to play the role, Let the archetype inform the story but not control it.
This is what the Islamic mystic Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī meant when he wrote:
“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
The projection is the meeting. The relationship is what happens after you recognise it.
Divinatory tools and astrology serve to surface these energies. The important thing is to see them not as competing, but as a layered reality. The Archetype Deck shows the myth beneath the story. The Tarot shows the scene onstage. Astrology maps the soul’s imprinting, the karmic DNA of the connection. Other systems, like geomancy, offer earth-rooted diagnostics, ways of reading the immediate energetic landscape and the current trajectory of fate. There are many methods, of course. What truly matters is your openness and willingness to experiment and explore yourself deeply, without fear.
When combined, these tools provide additional clarity and different symbolic, emotional, cosmic, and situational perspectives. But this only works if the querent is mature enough to hold contradiction and depth without rushing to conclusions often biased by personal convictions.
What starts as a confusing push–pull dynamic became a fully illuminated karmic lesson. Whether that lesson becomes love, liberation, or both, depends on whether the mirror is faced.
Projection is a doorway. The other person becomes the teacher you didn’t realise you summoned, and patterns act as riddles to be solved. Integration is where it all clicks into place.
In the end, your higher self provides the script, but it is your awareness that decides where the story goes next.
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